Mama Told Me, "Choose your friends wisely"

Hello Everyone,

    Hope you all had a great weekend/week :)! This article is not really about how you should choose your friends, but more of a tribute and a relateable approach on friendship. 

I have been blessed with many friends all unique and very different in their own ways, I'm going to list them off. I'm sure one of your friends falls under a description or two...

My Best Friend(s): Very hard to pick just one I have three!

The LETS GO friend: Never a dull moment unbelievably, spontaneous.

Your deep friend: Always there for perspective, but sometimes too serious(unless intoxicated)

The friend you've only hung out with once but really like.

The friend that has all the back up in the world: If there's trouble, you know who to call.

The Hi and Bye friend: Never have the urge to hang out with but its okay.

The since diapers friend: Have had numerous fights, tears, and great times.

The friend you always miss untill you see them.

The friend of a friend: Can't always remember their name.

The lets be as weird as possible: IT GETS SO WEIRD lol.

The how did we even meet friend?
The we can't stop laughing uncontrollably at nothing friend.
The when I see you I run and pick you up like We're in a movie: she may be a crush of mine.
The friend you never stop arguing with.
The philanthropist: Always helping others.

The high roller: $$$$$.
The opposite: but still somehow works.
The friend you won't see for years but when you do, its like they never left.
The friend that gives the best hugs.
The friend you look up too.

I LOVE MY FRIENDS <3

Everyone have a great week! and if you're in the Winnipeg area on Saturday March 29, 2014 is the annual Bison Sports Brown and Gold Social! It's going to be epic tweet at me or contact me for tickets!

Sincerely

WSKJr.

how to find SUCCESS in failure?!?

Yo!
      Sorry for the delay, I've decided I will be writing at-least once a week; if you think I forgot TWEET @Wsamking. Be like, "HEY YOU DIDN'T BLOG WILFRED!"


Anyways lets get right into it! My 2013-2014 Indoor Track and Field season  came to an end last weekend at the 2014 CIS National Championships. Needless to say, I have/had high expectations for myself; unfortunately I didn't meet most of them this season. Questions such as:

Why?

What Happened?

Explain it?
Was your blog distracting?

Started circling my mind after my 4*200 meter relay leg, because at that moment I knew my 4th Track&Field CIS season had concluded. There was a bitter taste in my mouth; metaphorically and physically, I was sad... a little angry... upset; with no one to blame but myself. That's the beauty of an individual sport, you get all the glory and/or all disappointment. 3 ways I try to find success in failure.

I felt as if I failed, but even in failure you can find success.

1. Reflect 

    It may be painful to think about what you did wrong or what went wrong, but this may be the most constructive step. What is most difficult about this step? It is sometimes unclear where to start. Always start at the Beginning? In life and this may be defined as the point where you first set your goals, or when you started working towards those goals. Continue through your timeline( NOT TWITTER OR FACEBOOK), but rather your timeline of events in your life. Most people focus too heavily on the conclusion and fail to see the foreshadowing of their actions, I call this Conclusion Based Reflection. Two examples of Conclusion Based Reflection (yup made my own mini theory) are when people talk about the Palestine & Israel disputes that stretch back to Biblical times, as though the issues are new or they had just aroused. The Russian & Ukraine dispute currently on/in every major print source can stretch back to old Soviet Union times. Reflect, you may find it was a combination of  situation that led to missing your goals.

2. separate EMOTIONS from FACTS 

    This is the most difficult step for me, and I'm sure it would be for anyone who is very passionate about anything. Sometimes the line between emotions and facts merge... (No they don't! you say). Emotions and facts merge when speaking about the outcome but do not merge when referring solely to performance result. (Wilfred what are you talking about?) The fact may be you performed poorly e.g in a race, if you lost... You would not be able to appeal the that you were nervous or thinking about something else when the gun went off. Emotions are excuses, VALID excuses when used constructively, but have no validity when used as reason for result based performance. Don't use emotions as an excuse, be in control of them and channel them to help you reach your goals.

3. Move.......On

   

Don't dwell on what cannot be changed, but don't be ignorant to the fact you will fail again. Finding SUCCESS in failure is not about masking your failure, its about triumphing from that failure. There is always another opportunity! It may not always be the way you expect but be open minded e.g great athletes that never win championships, but end up coaching multiple teams to multiple championships.

Failure is determined by self, influenced by others, triumphed by Success.

Triumph

WSKJr. 

3 ways to be POSITIVE ...without being annoying

Hello Everyone,

    I just wanted to say it's going to be a good week! 
Before I go into my own psyche to reveal how I think and present it for you in text, I want to say I HAVE MANY FLAWS. Although I have many flaws I am constantly working on them to better myself, therefore I am not judging  nor saying everyone should think or act as I do. Now that we have that disclaimer out of the way, LETS GO!

 
    Positivity often viewed as... well a very good thing (obviously you say) but there are some who are bothered by high or constant levels of positivity. Do you know what I say to them?... "God Bless You." I'm not talking about those two hour infomercials whereby the woman or man looks to be on a very strong drug and ceases to blink during the entire length of the add. That would definitely go under the category of annoying. I'm referring to the people that bring hope, inspire, and motivate others. Here are the 3 ways I believe those people spread positivity!

1. Be Happy With Who You Are!

    As simple as it may sound, this may be the most difficult for some. With the entire world on a health craze about eating, looking, and living a certain way it has become overwhelming for many to have comfort in their physical appearance; which usually leads to emotional insecurities( I'm no PHD, but I'm sure we all learnt that in first year Psychology). How to overcome the world and media pressures about looking a certain way? Simple instead of looking in the mirror and seeing flaws, look in the mirror and see your beautiful features. Perhaps a birth mark, a smile, eyebrows, legs, toes(lol), I mean literally anything.
DON'T SAY! I DON'T HAVE ANYTHING I LIKE! Even if it's just one feature, use it, and build on it. Be Happy With Who You Are

2. Do Not Compare Yourself to Others!

    This to me is one of if not the most important ways to be positive. The grass is always greener on the other side and envy leads to jealousy, we often hear these quotes but never think deeper into them(Well some of us have). It's is okay to be competitive; I'm pretty sure competitive stems off from compare in Latin or something(Once again I'm not a PHD,you can correct me in the comments section).Goal setting is also very healthy but has to be done in the right way; don't set goals according to others achievements, set them according to what you want to gain. By comparing yourself to others in a negative light, you are actually cutting yourself down, putting yourself below that person, and questioning your worth. Do not compare yourself to others, it does more harm than good.

3.Don't Be Judgmental

    We all think differently which means, we all act differently but that doesn't mean everything and anything will be socially accepted(cough cough Miley Cyrus). Even with Miley though(Yes we are on first name basis) she has never been this popular or successful, and she definitely stands-out from other pop artists now. We may never know why people act the way they do or do the things they do, but in an attempt to understand we have to keep an open mind. No one wants to be reminded of their mistakes. Don't be Judgmental!







This entry was inspired by my two great friends Django Miles Lovett from Langley British Columbia Canada and Michelle Young from Saskatoon Saskatchewan Canada! Both have overcome many personal endeavours and have stayed positive throughout. Yeah I love them :)!

God Bless You :)

WSKJr.